We have another ultrasound appointment on Friday. This is the big one – when they should be able to tell us definitively about the sex of the Cleakers. We are going to find out so we can help prepare ourselves and get ready for the twins. The last ultrasound technician was very sure that they are most likely boys. I think that having boys would be awesome, but if I’m going to be honest, I got totally nervous when she first told us she thought they were boys.
I think having boys will be a ton of fun – but I’m also very aware of the challenges that fathers and sons have. I don’t know any guy who hasn’t had issues with his dad – and I guess the possibility of having twin boys just got me a little nervous – that I now had two chances to screw up.
When we first found out they were twins, I thought it would be really awesome to have one girl and one boy. But then we found out they were identical. I know that both girls and boys have their own challenges and joys, and I know that we’ll be thrilled with our twins, no matter what their gender is.
So – tell me about your experience of finding out the gender. Were you excited? Were you fine either way? Were you really hoping for one and getting another?
Theresa says
I always wanted a girl. I was raised in a household of girls and was comfortable with raising a daughter. When I had an ultrasound, there it was glowing on the screen – a penis. I was more surprised definitely not disappointed. The funny thing was that InHo’s parents said they didn’t care, but when they found out it was a boy, they shrilled with excitement. My mother-in-law said that I did my duty b/c my son comes from a long line of first sons.
As for my daughter, I was hoping she was a girl, but was convinced it was a boy. I made the lab tech thoroughly explain to me why she thought it was a girl.
Both are fun. And you and Sarah will be great whether they are boys or girls. If they are girls, Adam take lessons from InHo on how to fix their hair and match stockings with dresses. If they are boys, Sarah get used to the toilet seat being perpetually in the up position.
Camille says
We didn’t find out with our first 1 and ended up having a girl. All along I was sure it was a boy, though. She has blessed us beyond anything we could imagine. Though my husband made it known he “needed” a son it has been a joy to watch him play princess with our daughter and take her on camping trips where there is no evidence of princess in sight.
Now we are expecting our second child. The compromise when we got married was that we’d find out the gender for the 2nd child. Now we know we’re having a boy- he’s made it quite clear in more than one U/S. It’s fun to imagine what he’ll be like and to have a name for him instead of talking about “the kid” kicking me at night.
I think it was fun to be surprised with our first. And it’s also fun to know this time. I always wanted 2 kids, one of each, so this is working out well. Since I have an older brother I thought I’d have a boy and then girl. Whatever you get it’s great and you’ll never be able to imagine life any other way.
I look forward to hearing the news on Friday. I hope the kids are cooperative.
Eric says
my first two we found out what we were having. girl and boy respectively. the last two, we didn’t want to know. when i say we, I mean SHE. Did I really want to know? Sure, but it wouldn’t have made a difference. I said it was so I could get mentally ready for them. So I could call them a name while they were still growing inside their mom. I contributed not knowing what my 3rd baby was until they were born as the reason it took so long for me to attach to them. It was really hard, and I had to go out of my way to try and force bond with them. The 4th one we didn’t know and I was just like “whatever” by the time they came around. So now I have three girls.
God help me.
lauren says
we found out our first was a boy. we sort of thought he was, so it wasn’t a big surprise. troy was super happy because he always wished he could have been the older brother to protect his sisters.
on baby number two, we found out we were having a girl. while we both said and thought we were ok either way, finding out she was a girl honestly showed us we were both hoping for another boy. it took me a week or so to get used to the idea. and it took troy a bit longer. now, of course, we could not imagine life any other way. everything is just so right, even if it wasn’t how we would have planned it.
katie says
We found out with our first that she was a girl. We were determined not to get into the whole “pink” theme, though, but once the baby showers started, so did the frilly dresses and every other gender stereotyped thing you can imagine. Fortunately she was resistant and now, at the tender age of 11, she’s still hesitant to wear a dress to church or wear anything that’s too “pink.” We didn’t want to find out with our second — we figured we understood the whole pregnancy thing pretty well with experience and a surprise might be nice. When our daughter was born, I really enjoyed the doctor saying, “It’s a girl!” And I was, at that point, thankful for all of the pink and frilly hand-me-downs. My husband had wanted a boy, but with each girl, he fell instantly in love. It’s the fact that they are our children, not that they are one gender or another. Girls DO have their challenges — but I wouldn’t trade them for anything.