People like to laugh at us when we tell them we’re pregnant with twins. Once they share their general joy and excitement with us, they generally say things like:
- “Haha – say goodbye to your lives!”
- “Well – hope you did everything you want to do in life because now you have no lives but your kids….”
- “No more toys for Adam!! Only toys for kids now…”
Now – I know life is going to change – I’m not stupid. Obviously – having twins IS going to be crazy, and our lives will never be the same. However, I like to get out and do things sometimes…and I know that Sarah – being an introvert – will need to find time to be alone and rejuvenate herself. I know we’re going to have a great support community that will help us through this dramatic time of change in our lives…but I wonder, after watching the above video, how does one find that time to be alone (or just be together – minus the kids)? Thanks to my friend Josh for linking to the video on Facebook.
For those of you who are “experienced” parents – how did you find time to get away with your partners and/or get away and find time by yourselves? Did you make a habit of getting some planned time in (as best as you can plan when you have newborn babies…) or was it more of a spontaneous thing?
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a few things we did/do:
fought for bedtime like our lives depended on it. both our kids are asleep by 8… that means we get some time just alone in the evenings.
datenight: once a week, no matter what. we trade babysitting with other friends and put some money for this in our budgets
free time: troy gives me time to run out alone once in a while and takes care of the kids…. i do the same for him
I ditto all of Lauren’s suggestions. My cousins, because they had extremely limited funds, would scrimp to pay the Friday night babysitter, then go and walk the mall together because they hadno money left over. It’s more important that you spend mindful, present time together than where you go.
I never see my husband, but Thats because he works crazy hours. no advice there. One way for Sarah to get alone time is the gym. I don’t particularly love exercise but leaving L in the gym daycare (where she was right down the hall) and just walking the treadmill, taking a shower, yoga, whatever was a great stress release. I’d go when my favorite show was on so I could watch it while I walked.