So last night I decided to be helpful. This isn’t to say that I haven’t been helpful so far in this pregnancy…I’ve been doing pretty well picking stuff up around the house, taking over the vacuuming (even though that chore had just recently been switched over to Sarah before we found out we were pregnant), doing dishes, and other stuff. But I decided to be…really helpful. You know, like suggest to my nauseous wife that we need to be trying other things to eat other than pizza for dinner. Or to suggest to my wife who really doesn’t have much energy right now that we need to be making sure she’s getting all the vitamins and nutrients that she needs for the twins.
You know. Helpful stuff like that.
And as you can probably imagine – that went over really well.
Shortly after that, I pulled out my iPad and started to read from The Expectant Father. And that’s when I read that the author had a similar experience right around the same point in their pregnancy that we’re in now:
“I quizzed my wife about how much protein she was eating; I reminded her to go to the gym for her workouts; I even worried about the position she slept in. All in all, I was a real pain.”
Well…at least I’m not alone in being a total ass.
It’s normal for dads-to-be to go through some of this (maybe not the being an ass part – but the part about wanting/needing to feel involved/helpful/etc). I guess for me I need to work on finding things that enable me to feel like I’m being helpful and contributing to this process and journey of our pregnancy.
So this question is for other dads or partners. How were you able to feel involved and helpful in your journey of pregnancy? In what ways were you able to be supportive?