11 weeks into our pregnancy – and not quite 1 week into DazedDad.com – I’m quickly realizing that it’s hard to know how much to share with others (and with the interwebs) when it comes to how things are going, complications with the pregnancy, etc. I asked Sarah about sharing this and she was okay with it. The last week has not been a fun one for us.
Tuesday morning, Sarah woke up with a lot of bleeding and we immediately called Kaiser and tried not to freak out too much. We went in for an ultrasound and they showed us the babies, the strong heartbeats and everything looked normal and okay…except for the bleeding. It continued for the rest of the day, although it lessened as evening approached.
Since then, we’ve learned that almost 80% of women experience mild to severe bleeding at some point in the pregnancy, and that it is normal. Normal? Well then why wouldn’t anyone mention that before hand? To say that it was a scary situation is to put it mildly. I am very thankful for the 24/7 Kaiser Advice Nurses who have been present for situations like this.
Sarah had no bleeding at all on Wednesday and all day Thursday, until around 9pm last night, when we had a repeat of the Tuesday morning incident. Again…absolutely a scary situation. Luckily it has shown me that in situations like this, adrenaline kicks in for me and I have no problem at all dealing with blood. This is interesting because if I try to read things about medical conditions online, or read about bleeding and pregnancy, I start to get really woozy.
At any rate – we just had another ultrasound this morning and again, we saw the babies alive and well, kicking and moving and hearts beating. Seeing those ultrasounds allows us to breathe a deep sigh of relief – but the frustration surrounding why Sarah is experiencing this continues. We are on our way to another ultrasound right now for a more detailed examination, and maybe we will get some answers then.
Complications this early are extremely frustrating. Being pregnant with twins alone already makes you get labeled as a “high risk pregnancy” – and these additional complications are making for a really rough week. We have some wonderful support from our church family here in Livermore, but it’s still difficult.
And it’s very interesting to see how having a scare like that begins to affect you. On Tuesday morning we walked out of our appointment and ran into someone from Livermore that we know who is pregnant, but I don’t think she knows we are pregnant. We said hi, but that was all. I didn’t tell her we were pregnant. It’s almost as though the scare made me apprehensive of telling more people in case something goes wrong.
It doesn’t make any sense – we’ve seen the ultrasounds – the babies are totally healthy and everything is completely normal with them. But when you experience the two scary situations that we’ve experienced, it adds a new dimension to the excitement of being pregnant. It certainly makes you think even more about the precious fragility of life, even life that is still in the womb.
We’d certainly appreciate your prayers and kind thoughts as we deal with some of these early complications.